What can I tell you about my father? I was the only son of
my father. I was the lucky child as I was the center of his attention all my
life. My dad had a daughter and he loved her so much but I knew one thing that
he loved me a lot.
My dad was a simple guy. I don’t ever recall of thinking for
him that “My dad is not cool enough”. When
I was kid, he used to play with me indoor games as he was not much of a outdoor
person. He taught me card games and chess. He was good in math and so do I and
my kids too. We traveled together a lot. Once I remember we were travelling and
we had an accident caused by my mistake. He hurt himself pretty good but never got
mad at me. Instead he was worried about my well-being. And it happened again and
again and again ……and all that time he proved to be the best.
I always thought that I have to teach him how be daring and
bold on financial decisions but once he was gone I realized security meant more
than growth to him. My dad didn't tell me how to live; he lived (very short but
contain life), and let me watch him do it. I've had a hard life, but my
hardships are nothing against the hardships that my father went through in
order to get me to where I started. When I was a kid all major decision for my
life were never been taken by him. He would always consider experts (in his opinion)
advice or help. Now I think it was very good for me. Till to-date I miss him
when I have to take some important decision. I miss him because of I can’t talk
to him who advise me to seek help from expert.
Now I consider myself wealthy as I believe truly rich man is
one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. I got two
daughters and a son. I will tell you letter about my daughters little letter. My
son is the oldest in my kids. He is shy kid and till you don’t enter in his
comfort circle, he will not talk to you at all. And it’s not easy to enter in
it. Dads work harder than ever in today’s stressful world. I show him how
important my son is by designating time just to him – and I have three children,
so I take turns to spend time with each. We at least play some games together
everyday as we both loves ping pong. During these times, I had to pry a bit a first,
but when I stick with it. he starts opening up, I was amazed by how complicated
kids life can be, and just the simple act of listening brought us closer. And let me tell you, it
doesn't matter when it is or what you do -- just having that time scheduled
together every day will strengthen your relationship and give you both
something to look forward to
I learned from my past that time spent together when your son is
young will result in a stronger relationship when he is an adult. I encourage
him to have his own opinions on things we do. We can't underestimate the
importance of setting aside time together, any activity at home, from mowing
lawn to painting the basement floor, can be turned into a father and son
bonding experience. This doesn't guarantee the two of us are about to make
happy, lifelong father-son memories, but I think it's a great place to start.
Everyone has their own interests, and it's natural for my
son to want to learn more about what he finds exciting. I always try to help
and encourage him on his interest like collecting coins or his scout’s activity.
You've got to exhibit a positive attitude when you're around your son. I do point
to something he's done recently and tell him that he did a good job, or just
make an effort to say something positive to him every day. He loves to bread
fish and he is quite successful in it too.
I think that he might not say it very often (if at all), but
your son looks up to you. You're the primary male influence in his life, so
virtually everything he's going to learn about being a man is going to come
from you. Keep this fact in mind “Lead by example”. I show him how to be a
humble winner and a gracious loser (He started beating me in the game now). I teach
him the value of hard work and the importance of seeing projects through to the
end. This shows him how to act like the man I want him to be.
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