Thursday, 29 November 2012

Know your friends


I am SO LUCKY to have so many good friends. Let's face it, great friendships are priceless. Good friends can lift your spirits, make you laugh, and remind you that you are loved.

Good Friends Are Real and Honest
Arguing in a Healthy Way
Encourage Other Friendships
Trust
Respect Boundaries
Nurture Each Other
Friends make you feel comfortable with yourself, so you don't need to act like something you're not. Your friends know your shortcomings and love you anyway. You are perhaps the "best version" of yourself when you're with your friend.

To that end, a healthy friendship includes plenty of gentle honesty. Your friend won't lie to you, but they won't try and hurt your feelings either. As a result, you'll know where you stand with your friend and won't be afraid to share your true opinions.

Know your friends

There are the types of friends that are messy. They like to engage in gossip and bring your name into the conversation without your authorization. This might be because they want to make you look bad or to cover themselves

Assets.
They use you because you have assets like a car, your own apartment or home, make lots of money, have vacation property, or to get close to your boyfriend or brother. They will eat up your house or home and even use your beauty products. But when you confront them, they become angry. They disrespect you and your belongings. You may also notice borrowing become an issue. They borrow money and never pay you back. Borrow your clothes, property, and never give it. Return it damaged. Let other people use/wear your belongings. They may also ask for a favor but can never return a favor.

"It's all about me" type of friends.
They always talk about themselves. Also, they could care a less about you... your day, how you're feeling, etc. You may also notice that they brag a lot. Whether it be about themselves, materialistic possessions, boyfriend, getting married, or a vacation, they always find something to make them sound better than you. Seems to always have an opinion about everything. An opinion is a person's ideas and thoughts towards something. It is an assessment, judgment or evaluation of something. An egocentric person has no theory of mind, cannot "put himself in other people's shoes," and believes everyone sees what he sees (or that what he sees in some way exceeds what others see. It appears that this is shown mostly in younger children. They are unable to separate their own beliefs, thoughts and ideas from others

Poor me.
Always come to you when they have problems for advice, but when you need to vent or advice they're very short with you. So not fair when you don't mind spending two hours plus to cool them down; instead for you it's like five minutes. You're not a therapist. They may also stay mad at you when you two are in a fight. This is because they can only see their point of view.

Clingy. Can't share you with other people.
When they do see you with other people, they're jealous because they want you all to themselves. Can't include you to see a movie with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Spends lots of time with them, and when their other half is busy they want you all the time. They will ditch you for them if they come around.

Fake.
 Smiles in your face, but when around other people, make you feel small by continuously putting you down verbally. They may also do things such as drugs and deny it. They might promise to call you back, but never do. Always keeps you waiting. Always make excuses as to why they didn't call you.

Never acknowledges your ethnicity/culture.
 Considers you something else, and think it's alright to insult you heritage by using derogatory slang words around you knowing it offends you. Doesn't accept you for you for all that you are.

Spies.
These people are not your true friends. They are like assets and they maybe working for someone else to find about you. They may do this because they are jealous, if they want to teach you a lesson or if they want to get close to your boyfriend or brother. They are not really interested in you. You might notice that these people always need to know everything. For example, you may be talking to another friend about a secret and she/he wants to know what you're talking about. They often try to overhear conversations between you and other people. They often lie. They may lie their name, age etc from you. Be careful from them. They may soon blackmail or bully you. They may eat up your things. If they bully you never be shy to tell an elder. So try to dump this friend as soon as you find out that they are poisonous.


Ignores You.
When you are hanging out with them and other friends of yours, they are always talking to you and start socializing with your friends. However, when you are hanging out with them and their friends, they absolutely ignore you and forget to introduce you to their friends. Every time you try to spark up a conversation he/she ignores you and continues to talk to their friend.

Wednesday, 21 November 2012

Looking things with new perspective ........ .......Capturing the beauty of the ordinary

Macro makes things extraordinary, by simply offering a new perspective ...............
Capturing the beauty of the ordinary world ….that you enjoy looking at
 








Dei Gratia Regina (often abbreviated to D. G. Regina and seen as D·G·REGINA) is a Latin title meaning By the Grace of God, Queen.










Wednesday, 14 November 2012

A New Year's resolution ........I will speak what you like






I will speak what you like
If you refer to day as night, I will refer to it as night too

I would have died long ago if I didn't had your company
In my life, all desires are fulfilled by you
I will refer to life as your gift

If you refer to day as night, I will refer to it as night too
I will speak what you like

I will look at you as long as I have vision
I will tell you my hearty feelings

If you refer to day as night, I will refer to it as night too
I will speak what you like

If you refer to day as night, I will refer to it as night too
I will speak what you like
I will love, obey and praise only you

Monday, 12 November 2012

O God …..I wonder why ……


Oh maker of this world
What came to your mind that you made this world …..?

How do I describe her beauty …? Eyes like those of deer
Her face gleaming like moon
Long dark and silky hair, down to her heels
When she smiled, it was as if lightning had stuck
Only God can endow such a beauty to a statue of clay

Why have you made statues of clay ……?
This lovey earth ….these shining faces ……?
Why have you made this play called life ….?
In which you have held this fair of youth …..
You sit and watch fun quietly, such is your greatness  

Why have you made this world …?
  
Oh maker of this world
What came to your mind that you made this world …..?


She had grown, but even so…she was never been truly loved
All day and night her heart would hurt
You understand what I mean by heart, don’t you …?


You must have suffered after making this heart ……
After hiding this storm of love in heart …..
There must be some picture in your eyes …..
Some tears must also have fallen from your eyes ……
Tell me what made you do it …..?
Why you have awakened love …..?

Why have you made this world …?

Oh maker of this world
What came to your mind that you made this world …..?


You created love and taught us to live ….
You taught us to laugh and to cry ……
You made us meet friends on path of life
And awakened our dreams
After awakening dreams, why did you gave us separation?

Why have you made this world …?
  
Oh maker of this world
What came to your mind that you made this world …..?






The one I was looking up to
Could never become mine
When the boat of my heart sank
The shore was very near 

The one I was looking up to
Could never become mine

“What are the promises of love? “
“What are the intensions of love?”
Nothing but the mere walls of sand
That anyone wants can bring down

The one I was looking up to
Could never become mine

There is everything in the world
There is friendship and constancy
But its my misfortune that
I got nothing of it
I got nothing of it

The one I was looking up to
Could never become mine

Although I will settle down in the life
But the loneliness will still sting
And that which was lacking in life,
Will remain lacking
Will remain lacking

The one I was looking up to
Could never become mine
When the boat of my heart sank
The shore was very near 


Tuesday, 6 November 2012

15th Marriage Anniversary at God Palace


We’re very happy to be celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary last weekend. While our marriage hasn’t been hard work, it has required a lot of attention on both the small things and the big things. I Gave particular attention to what my wife wants, believes and likes. rather than working out what I need, I think she did the same too.

Ideally and spiritually we know that both of us are like one soul and two bodies; if we hurt each other, we hurt ourselves as well.

She picked the most wonderful place and we spent two days there. The place was a piece of heaven, quite and peaceful. If you want peace of mind, a green and pleasant place for the whole family, this is the place.

Here are some pictures I took at the place.

This place is just outside of very small town in Pennsylvania.  
















Wednesday, 31 October 2012

May be this is the reason…….





The suffering caused by my love for you
was really a lousy excuse
My fate is such that heart had to be broken

If not this, I could have suffered for something else.
I am such a person whom had to weep over one thing or the other.
Even if I smile, her image had to be disturbed by tears

Otherwise what is the matter; you are not such a difficult person
You too have heart not a stone
Why didn’t I understand that, the way you treated me,
its happening because of my fate.

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Sweet Thirst





Every moment you dwell near my heart
I call this life a sweet thirst.
Every evening, your veil flutters over my eyes
and every night, a parade of memories begins.

With each breath I draw, I smell your perfume
it brings along with it a scented message
The beat of my heart chants a song of you.
Every moment you dwell near my heart

Yesterday, I glimpsed you  
It was as if you were telling me, "Bind me to you forever."

What sort of bond is this? What sort of dreams are these,
which, even now that they've turned strange, still seem so intimate and right?
I'm constantly lost in thought; I say haltingly and fearfully,

Every moment you dwell near my heart

You might be thinking why I love you so much
You'd think me mad, if I even expressed my feelings.
Only madmen can fathom a madman's speech;

only moths can understand the pleasure of burning in the flame.
Keep burning me with desire, by coming into my dreams.

Every moment you dwell near my heart
I call this life a sweet thirst.

Tuesday, 23 October 2012

Magical face of yours ........






Your face cast such a spell,
I get drawn to you.
I intend to go somewhere else,
But I get drawn to you.

Your eyes shine like diamonds,
With thousand secrets hidden in them.
Your sound is so mesmerizing; they create a thrust for love in me.
I get drawn to you.

Your one look can turn alive the dead,
Your lips are goblets of nectar,
They encourage a feeling in the hart to live
I get drawn to you.

My feet walk along with you,
I can’t seem to stop them. I can’t seem to stop them.
Your face cast such a spell.

Since I have seen you,
I have begun to believe in God.
And now my heart says, you are the treasure of my happiness

Give me your consent, fulfill what I lack
Even a little distance from you makes me go berserk

It may be difficult to win you
Yet I am desperate for you, I am desperate for you 

Wednesday, 17 October 2012

My relation with my father and my son ……



What can I tell you about my father? I was the only son of my father. I was the lucky child as I was the center of his attention all my life. My dad had a daughter and he loved her so much but I knew one thing that he loved me a lot.

My dad was a simple guy. I don’t ever recall of thinking for him that “My dad is not cool enough”.  When I was kid, he used to play with me indoor games as he was not much of a outdoor person. He taught me card games and chess. He was good in math and so do I and my kids too. We traveled together a lot. Once I remember we were travelling and we had an accident caused by my mistake. He hurt himself pretty good but never got mad at me. Instead he was worried about my well-being. And it happened again and again and again ……and all that time he proved to be the best.

I always thought that I have to teach him how be daring and bold on financial decisions but once he was gone I realized security meant more than growth to him. My dad didn't tell me how to live; he lived (very short but contain life), and let me watch him do it. I've had a hard life, but my hardships are nothing against the hardships that my father went through in order to get me to where I started. When I was a kid all major decision for my life were never been taken by him. He would always consider experts (in his opinion) advice or help. Now I think it was very good for me. Till to-date I miss him when I have to take some important decision. I miss him because of I can’t talk to him who advise me to seek help from expert.

Now I consider myself wealthy as I believe truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. I got two daughters and a son. I will tell you letter about my daughters little letter. My son is the oldest in my kids. He is shy kid and till you don’t enter in his comfort circle, he will not talk to you at all. And it’s not easy to enter in it. Dads work harder than ever in today’s stressful world. I show him how important my son is by designating time just to him – and I have three children, so I take turns to spend time with each. We at least play some games together everyday as we both loves ping pong. During these times, I had to pry a bit a first, but when I stick with it. he starts opening up, I was amazed by how complicated kids life can be, and just the simple act of listening brought us closer. And let me tell you, it doesn't matter when it is or what you do -- just having that time scheduled together every day will strengthen your relationship and give you both something to look forward to

I learned from my past that time spent  together when your son is young will result in a stronger relationship when he is an adult. I encourage him to have his own opinions on things we do. We can't underestimate the importance of setting aside time together, any activity at home, from mowing lawn to painting the basement floor, can be turned into a father and son bonding experience. This doesn't guarantee the two of us are about to make happy, lifelong father-son memories, but I think it's a great place to start.

Everyone has their own interests, and it's natural for my son to want to learn more about what he finds exciting. I always try to help and encourage him on his interest like collecting coins or his scout’s activity. You've got to exhibit a positive attitude when you're around your son. I do point to something he's done recently and tell him that he did a good job, or just make an effort to say something positive to him every day. He loves to bread fish and he is quite successful in it too.



I think that he might not say it very often (if at all), but your son looks up to you. You're the primary male influence in his life, so virtually everything he's going to learn about being a man is going to come from you. Keep this fact in mind “Lead by example”. I show him how to be a humble winner and a gracious loser (He started beating me in the game now). I teach him the value of hard work and the importance of seeing projects through to the end. This shows him how to act like the man I want him to be.



Monday, 15 October 2012

Neither you say a word nor I .............


Just come close to me, Let me keep looking at you
Neither you say a word nor I

I only know that I have lost something
I only know that something has happened to me
Don’t ask me any more about when, what and why ….
Just come close to me, Let me keep looking at you
Neither you say a word nor I

Let me be in your arms and
if I could, I would forget you
But I just can’t stop thinking about you
Just come close to me, Let me keep looking at you
Neither you say a word nor I 

Monday, 8 October 2012

Thanks Giving weekend


The Thanksgiving weekend is a popular time to take a short outdoor breaks to admire the spectacular colors of the Canadian autumn
Canadians do tend to get together on Thanksgiving weekend, The holiday is not as big a celebration in Canada as it is in the U.S., where Thanksgiving is the year's biggest holiday occasion.
The weekend was bit cold than usual but i still enjoyed it a lot as the mind was very clear and stress free. Sometimes the best thing I can do to clear my mind is to change my focus.
i took some pictures this weekend. These first four pictures are from my house facing my backyard. i do have beautiful backyard landscape.
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it was very relaxing weekend and i never planned much for it either. On Sunday i took family to beautiful Young Street in Toronto but i did not take my camera with me. We had thanks giving dinner at my house for about 15 family members. Monday took wife for ling drive. Nice sun was out and that crisp clarity in the air…. just amazing. Start your engine and leave the town,  where the leafy panorama is dazzling this time of year and prepare for a breathtaking scene: maple, beech and birch trees saturated in color
We stopped for a walk again at my favourite place …Grand river …Here are some nice pictures from the river.
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Last night i was watching one song and the meaning of the song is something like this. I am not very good in language but i would like to share it.

Love has broken many hearts and burned down many houses, yet why do people love and trade heart for pain?

They seek gathering. But, all they get is loneliness.  Love is a path that reaches no destination. There is no success. The  heart eventually breaks.  This is how love concludes. 

World will never understand why the moth gets so uneasy and burns itself in flame. Life of Passionate people is full of sighs. Why do people still love?

The month of  long rain makes separation unbearable. When heart yearns for someone, tears come out of eyes.  

The life becomes useless & same complain is there all the time.  

Medicines become  ineffective. Even the prayers do not heal. 

How does everyone  still accept this and swallow the poison of love?

This happens all the time in love. The beloved is accused of all the pain. 

This spectacle repeats day and night. The stories of love become longer than the nights.  

People in love tell tales of  beloved's tyranny.   That the beloved is untrustworthy.

That the beloved is unfaithful. They call names to the tyrant whom they love so much.

Why do they do all this? 

Why do people love?



Well I count myself  fortunate enough that I experienced all of these. 


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And finally, I thank You, God for all of Your blessings. For sharing with me all the good in this world, for all the joys in my life. For leading me through trials and fears to success, for showing me the light even in times of great darkness. For giving me strength to come this far, for all of this, I thank You.

Friday, 5 October 2012

I don’t ever seem to realize that doing what’s right’s no guarantee against misfortune.


Yesterday I was happy as I found something which I was looking, every day for really very long time.  I hope I stick to it now.


How long will this mind remain in darkness of separation?
The days of grief will have to pass one day.

Some joy and some sorrow “this is life “.
The season of falling leaves is far too short while
The new flower will blossom again tomorrow

The days of grief will have to pass one day

However strong the wind may blow,
 have this faith in your heart
Those who got separated will meet once again

The days of grief will have to pass one day

Whatever anyone may say, but the truth is this
Somewhere the waves of love have risen,
The wave will one day reach the shore

How long will this mind remain in darkness of separation?
The days of grief will have to pass one day.






In the evening went to my backyard river for a stroll with my beautiful wife. I had my camera with me.  The fall colours alone make a trip worthwhile. I saw flies sucking nectar from a floret - central disc of a species of these wild violate flowers.







Fall is a great season, as the changing colors of leaves and changing angle of the sun make for great autumn pictures. The contrast between the crisp green leaves of still flourishing trees and the reddish browns of dying leaves make autumn pictures truly a sight to behold. 




I been to this Grand River so many times and every time I fall deeper in love with the river and its shore. It seemed that the birds, trees and water sang to me. The trail is hard as it has lots of ups and downs but at the end it was all worth it 












The walk was so nice, sun filtering through leaves of beautiful fall trees, 




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“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.”